Reflections and Big Life Changes

4 years ago today. November 11th 2015. I remember so vividly my world completely shattering all around me. My life suddenly like grains of sand through my hands when I saw those text messages. And that was nothing compared to what would follow. The sudden and completely unexpected reality of my partner’s sex addition, that would destroy my life and eventually lead to the loss of my marriage, my home, my hopes, my dreams, and the future I had so fully invested in, left me a complete shell of the person I was. The dearest, most important things in my life, just gone. Looking back, sometimes I marvel that I even survived what happened at all. But in those moments, and years of despair, I refused to give up. Because somehow, from the very deepest places within me, I discovered a strength that I never knew that I had. And that was my faith. It was my faith that persevered when I couldn’t, and it gave me the strength and hope to carry on. And while it’s still incredibly hard sometimes, and days like today still feel tender, looking at myself in the mirror this morning and reflecting on the girl I was 4 years ago, I am in complete awe at the goodness and grace of God. And am grateful beyond measure for how far I’ve come. Even though my life doesn’t look the way I thought it would, and rebuilding has been beyond hard at times, I am still so very thankful for this second chance at a beautiful life for myself. Because the truth is, that for most of us, life doesn’t turn out the way we hope and pray for. And while there is so much joy in this life, there are also copious amounts of heartbreak. And while it sometimes overwhelms me to think about the hurt in this world, I still see and believe in that light in the darkness. And want to BE a light in the darkness. And that’s why I have chosen to share pieces of my story  with you all over the last couple of years. Because I remember a time when I didn’t think I could go on, when I couldn’t even say out loud what had happened in my life, let alone believe that I would be ok. But here I am today, with true joy and gratitude in my heart. And while it’s been a long, hard road, and I am forever changed and forever scarred, I can say that I have found happiness again. So I just want to remind you today that you too can do hard things. You can survive whatever life brings your way. Because YOU are so worth the fight. Whether you realize it or not, and as hopeless as it might seem at times, we each hold the key to our own happiness and it is up to us to be the ones to write beauty from ashes on the pages of our stories.

As my story has unfolded these last few years, and I’ve navigated the many stages of grief and healing, trying to figure out what I wanted my life to look like, something pretty major started shifting in my heart. And so today, it felt fitting to share some big news with you guys that I have been keeping close these last couple of months…I’M MOVING! And wow. It feels pretty surreal to put that out there in writing like that. There is so much of me that is excited for this change, but there is also part of me that is scared to death. And my heart is already aching in anticipation of the goodbyes I am going to have to say. Truly, I have had the best friends and community in Salt Lake that I have ever had in my entire life. And leaving them is going to be one of the hardest things I will ever do. But at the end of the day, I’ve slowly but surely realized that my heart has been calling me home to Montana. My happy place. It’s time for me to have that completely fresh start I’ve been longing for, and most importantly, to be with my family. So Whitefish, here I come! I can’t wait to share more with you all about my move, my new place (it’s on the river!), my redecorating process (it’s a way different space than my current one), and all of the things that will come with this monumental life change. But for now, I am looking forward to every second that I have left in Utah with my people, my framily, who have never wavered in their love, support, and encouragement of me. I’ve been thinking a lot today about the fact that despite losing everything four years ago, that I’m not only still standing, but standing here today with more richness in relationships then I have ever experienced in my life. How LUCKY I am to have such beautiful people around me that will make saying goodbye so hard. So wherever you are right now, whatever your story, don’t give up. I promise you there is goodness and light on the other side. Beauty from ashes.

And thank you, as always, to all of you for your constant encouragement of me over the years.  Your love and support means more than I could ever say and I can’t wait to share this next chapter with all of you.

xoxo

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Mad About Plaid

As if the Fall Cabi line couldn’t get any cuter, now they’ve gone and launched new arrivals.  And guys, they are SO good!  When I got to have a sneak peek at what was coming in the new launch a few weeks ago, this plaid jacket was the first thing I knew I needed to have in my wardrobe.  And it’s even cuter in person.  Plus it’s such an easy piece to style now AND take into cooler temps (and the holiday season!).  Today I paired it with my favorite band tee and OTK boots, but it would also look amazing with a dress, or over a cozy sweater with Sorels when the snow starts flying.

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Snow Valley Jacket

Cabi New Arrivals

Full Cabi Fall Collection

Be sure to come say “hi” on my Instagram today (@alldolledupblog)!  I’ll be sharing a few more of my favorites from the new fall collection!

Thank you guys so much for stopping by!  Happy Wednesday!

xoxo,

Abs

Green Suede Jacket

I am all about shades of green this season.  In fact, I can’t seem to get enough.  And while I’m typically drawn to shades of olive, hunter green has been at the top of my list this year.  It just feels like such a fresh and updated take on this versatile shade-particularly when it’s done in suede.

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Jacket (TJMaxx), similar, similar, similar | Top | Skinnies (so comfy and less than $100!) | Sunnies | Bag | Heels

Hope you guys had a wonderful weekend!  I’m off to LA today for a work trip.  Would love any suggestions you all have for great lunch or dinner spots!

xoxo,

Abby

 

Neutrals

Olive and nude is always a favorite color combo of mine.  And this olive tunic is so soft and cozy (and under $40!), it’s pretty much my favorite purchase of the Fall season.  I’m also loving this faux suede vest.  It is just one of those pieces that I will be able to get a ton of wear out of. And you know I always love (and recommend) pieces that are a good investment!

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Tunic | Vest | Denim | Bagsimilar | Necklace | Sunnies | Pumps

Hope you guys had a good weekend!  Thanks so much for stopping by!

xoxo,

Abby

P.S.  I am going to take a little mini-break from my social media/blog for the next couple of days.  I am participating in a fast with my church, Antioch SLC, and have opted to give up social media and tv for the next couple of days to spend some time focusing on my walk with God.  But I will be back to my regular posting on Wednesday evening, so be sure to check back then!!!

 

 

Instagram Round Up

Since it’s been a while since I’ve done one of these posts, today I’ve rounded up all of the recent looks I’ve shared on Instagram and linked all of the product details below.  So for all of you sweet friends who don’t use LikeToKnowIt, this post is for you!

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insta-round-up-2Clockwise from top: Fringe Booties | Perforated Booties | Slip On Bootie | Peep Toe Bootie

insta-round-up-4Sweater | NecklaceHat | Skinnies | Pumps

insta-round-up-5Vest | Dress | Necklace | Heels

insta-round-up-7Denim Jacket | Dress | Booties 

insta-round-up-10Chambray Dress | Clutch | Sunnies | Heels

insta-round-up-11Dress | Necklace | Bag | Heels

insta-round-up-8Top | Skinnies | Heels

insta-round-up-12Settee  (on sale!)| Pillows (here, here, and here) | End Table | Vase

insta-round-up-13Tee (obsessed and it it’s on sale for $20!) | Skinnies | Booties

insta-round-up-14Romper | Booties

insta-round-up-3Tank | Jacket | Skinnies | Booties

insta-round-up-15Dress | Cardigan | Necklace | Similar TB Bag (on sale!) | Booties

insta-round-up-16Hat | Jacket | Tee | Skinnies

insta-round-up-17Hat | Booties | Scarf | Clutch

insta-round-up-18Dress | Necklace | Clutch | Booties

insta-round-up-19Vest | Dress (worn as top) | Skinnies | Necklace | Bag | Pumps

Hope you guys have a WONDERFUL weekend!  Thanks so much for stopping by!

xoxo,

Abby

Fall Vibes

While I hate to see summer go, I do love me some Fall fashion!  And even though it’s still pretty hot here in Salt Lake, I am already starting to gravitate towards Fall color combinations, like today’s rust, leopard, and black look.  And if you don’t have this top in your life yet (it also comes in a dress version!), then you need it ASAP.  It comes in a bunch of colors and is less than $30.  It’s seriously the best.

PLUS don’t forget to stop by my Instagram to enter to win a pair of the Karen Walker sunglasses I’m wearing in today’s post! Contest ends tonight at midnight MST. Good luck!

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Top: Nordstrom, dress version | Skinnies: Goldfish Boutique, similar, similar | Choker: Nordstrom | Sunnies: Karen Walker (go to my Instagram to win these!)| Bag: Rebecca Minkoff | Heels: Steve Madden (on sale for under $40!)

Happy, happy Friday, my friends.  Does anyone have any fun weekend plans?

xoxo,

Abby

 

Fringed

My motto this season?  Fringe, fringe, and MORE fringe!  I am loving everything from footwear, to bags, to apparel.  And while I think every gal should own a couple of fringe pieces in her closet this Fall (even just one is ok!), this is a great example of trend that may or may not still be around next season.  So while it’s fun for right now in 2015, my advice is to be smart about your fringe purchases and not invest too much $ wise.  Case and point are the shoes in today’s post.  I have been eyeing for them for what seems like forever, but I just didn’t want to commit to the price tag.  So when they finally went on major sale, I pounced.  And you know what? I know I’ll have fun wearing them, but that I definitely won’t feel badly about buying them if fringe isn’t all the rage next season.

So if you are looking to add some fun fringe footwear to your wardrobe this season, be sure to scroll to the bottom of the post to see more of my favorite fringe footwear under $100!

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Black Sweatshirt Dress: Loft (LOVE this it is so soft and cozy!!) | Chambray Shirt: JCrew (on sale and a must have fall basic) | Necklace: INC | Bracelets: Kate Spade, House of Harlow | Hat: Pistil | Sunnies: Karen Walker (try them for one month FREE with code ALLDOLLEDUP at checkout) | Clutch: Clare Vivier (LOVING this clare V clutch which is on sale!) | Fringe Heels: Steve Madden (on sale! also love the gold)

Other Favorite Fringed Footwear Under $100:

Black Fringe Bootie

My favorite fringe booties (you can see them styled here)

These are on my wish list

Dressier Fringe Bootie (LOVE!)

Fringe Pump

Happy Friday friends!  Wishing you all a fantastic weekend!

xoxo,

Abby

 

 

 

Leather and Lace

I love this time of year when I can transition my summer dresses into the Fall season.  And even more than that, I love that I don’t have to put my white items away after Labor Day!  Because as perfect as this white lace dress was to wear during the summer months, I actually prefer it dressed up with Fall ready accessories.  And if you didn’t buy this FANTASTIC faux leather jacket last year (it is my absolute FAVORITE), it’s not too late, because Nordstrom brought it back again this season.  It really is just that good (and it’s under $100)!

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Dress: SheIn c/o | Jacket: Blank NYC via Nordstrom (a must have this Fall, AND it’s under $100!) | Cuffs: Stella & Dot, Macy’s | Sunnies: Karen Walker | Bag: Clare Vivier (sold out),  full leather version, clutch version | Heels: INC 

Hope you all had a wonderful holiday weekend.  Can you believe we are back to another work week already??? I think ALL weekends should be at least three days long, don’t you?

 

 

 

Pop of Plaid

Well hello there, and happy Tuesday sweet readers!  Today, I am sharing with you a 2nd outfit idea to wear to your Thanksgiving dinner.  Yesterday, I posted a super casual outfit (a tunic and leggings), and today, I wanted to share with you a dressier option-with a pop of plaid (of course!).  And one thing all of my outfits ideas have in common this week?  COMFORT!!!  While I am all for being stylish on any given day, to me, comfort is key on Thanksgiving! And a relaxed fit dress (with pockets!), paired back to my favorite plaid shirt and leather jacket certainly seems to fit the bill!

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Jacket: Blank NYC via Nordstrom (this is seriouly THE BEST jacket EVER) | Plaid Button Down: JCrew (last year), almost identical (and on sale!), LOVING this (50% off!) and this (on sale!) | Dress: Zara (recent-check in store), similar (50% off!), LOVE this | Bracelets: Stella & Dot (here and here), JCrew (here and here) | Watch: Michael Kors | Sunnies: Karen Walker, less expensive version | Clutch: Hobo Lauren (my FAVE!) | Booties: INC via Macy’s 

DON’T FORGET to enter for your chance to win 1 of 5 mini-facials from Rodan + Fields!  Click on the Rafflecopter link below to enter and be sure to leave a comment with your email address in the comments section!

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AND ONE MORE THING!!!  Be sure to come back tomorrow-I’ll be sharing another outfit option for Thanksgiving and ALL of the amazing Thanksgiving/Black Friday sales happening this week.  Trust me, you want to miss this!!

Happy day!